CRADLE SNATCHER AND SO WHAT?
Since I can remember, our society has always judged, criticised and even mocked women whose partner is younger than them. I don't mean 1 or 3 years apart, but of 6, 10 or even more. When a man has a woman much younger than himself, his friends, family and social environment congratulate him and admire him because they consider it an achievement. For women, the age difference is seen as a sin in many people's eyes, women are concerned about what people will say, knowing that at any moment they can be victims of a ridicule from a society and that often believes that a younger man lacks maturity to face a sentimental relationship and all that this implies.
When I started dating, I noticed a repetitive factor in my love life, often I attracted younger men than me, much more than older men and always wondered why? Of course I was the victim of jokes and called a "cradle snatcher" so society's behavior made me question of having a relationship with a younger man ever again. I even avoided dating with people just because their age not knowing that the only thing that a number defines is how old someone is.
So determined not to be with any man younger than me I set out a "goal" of just being with older man. A goal that failed as it seemed I was attracting them more. While I was avoiding them, they were more attracted to me. I was determined but it seemed that my life was destined to be with someone younger than me, even though I was resistant.
When I dated older men I observed that they were not so ready for a relationship, many were unsure, bored, with a huge fear of commitment and in many cases even immature, although I thought maturity was meant to come with age. Thanks to this, my prejudices were fading and I opened up to anyone who could fill my life, regardless of their age.
The younger men appeared again, this time with a twist to that I was accustomed to. This time I opened up to someone who is younger than me but is on par with me, it's fun, helpful, good friend and knows more than me in many ways. This time I felt that I was with someone who didn't nod his head to everything I said. This time I was in front of someone who is willing, who has his own opinions and can say no when he disagrees with me. This time I did not mind his age but what is in his brain and thanks to him I realised that age is in your head. That you can be 20 and be a gentleman, with clear and decisive goals or you can be 30 and be wandering and playing through life.
No matter what you do or how you do it, no matter if you're younger and he is older or the opposite, society will always judge, criticise or mock, so live your life and enjoy the moment.
